HELP!!! Refusal issues!
Okay. I've had the same horse for five years. We're the perfect match and he's the most amazing boy in the entire world. We know each other inside and out. At home, schoolings, and lessons we don't have any problems with refusing and he jumps everything he sees like a dream. But at shows I get nervous, really nervous and he senses it. On course walks I tend to look at the jumps and pick which ones I think he will have trouble with and those are the ones he always refuses. I'm not sure if that's because I know him so well or because I get myself worried about that jump and he senses it. Sometimes he goes over everything perfect but most of the time we end up getting eliminated on the first couple of jumps. The last show we went to was last week, a Pony Club rally. He did amazing all throughout eventing and had the best clear round of his life in showjumping and only one refusal on cross country. However, we didn't get through one showjumping course besides the eventing one and on the last day didn't even get over the first jump :(. So he proved that he is can behave in the ring with that clear round but I'm clueless as to what I did different that time. Any ideas on how to get him to go over everything? Please help.